Effects of Divorce on Children

Here are some ways that divorce effects children. Check out the website, http://extension.unh.edu/Family/Documents/divorce.pdf, there is more information on how divorce effects children.

Sociologists and psychologists are beginning to provide reliable information about the effects of divorce on children. There are many important factors. Research shows that the effects depend on the age of the child at the time of the divorce. Young children do not always suffer if a divorce occurs. However, problems may occur if a close relationship or bond between a parent and child is broken.

Infants
Infants may not understand conflict, but may react to changes in parent’s energy level and mood.

Preschool Children
Children from three to five years of age frequently believe they have caused their parent's divorce. Preschoolers may fear being left alone or abandoned. They may show baby-like behavior, such as wanting their security blanket or old toys, or they begin wetting the bed.

School-aged Children
Some psychologists believe divorce is more difficult for elementary school children than for younger or older children. School-age children seem to understand that they are in pain because of their parents' separation. They may experience grief, embarrassment, resentment, and intense anger. Becoming actively involved in activities with other children may help them cope with their family life situation.

Adolescents
Teens experience anger, fear, loneliness, depression and guilt. Some feel pushed into adulthood if they have to take responsibility for many new chores or care of siblings. Teens also may begin having doubt of their own ability to get married or to stay married. They may understand the causes leading to their parents' separation. They may also feel pressure to "choose" one of their parents over the other, or to fault one parent over the other for the "cause" of the divorce.